The 365 Blog · Psychotherapy & Counselling

Writing on Betrayal, Divorce, Relationships, and What Gets in the Way.

These posts are written for people navigating difficult relationship experiences: not as a substitute for therapy, but as a place to find language for what you're going through.

Shelby Doherty-Sirkovich, RP, MACP  ·  CRPO #12083  ·  Virtual therapy across Ontario

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You Can Read Every Room. So Why Can't You Say No?

You noticed the tension in the room before anyone else did. You adjusted your tone, softened your position, made space. You knew exactly what was needed to keep things from escalating and you did it. Again.

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The Cost of Being the Reasonable One in Every Relationship

You've probably lost count of how many times you've been the one to apologize first, even when you weren't really in the wrong. How often you've let something slide because bringing it up would "just cause drama?" How often have you adjusted your needs, your schedule, and your boundaries to keep the peace?

Being the reasonable one sounds like a good thing. It's certainly better than being difficult or demanding, right? Except after years of being the person who compromises, who sees both sides, who stays calm while others lose it, you might notice something's off. You're exhausted. Resentful. And somehow, despite all your efforts to be understanding, your relationships still aren't working the way you hoped they would.

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Posts on this site are educational and are not a substitute for individual clinical care. Shelby Doherty-Sirkovich is a Registered Psychotherapist (CRPO #12083) practicing virtually across Ontario, Canada. If you are in crisis, the 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline is available 24/7 by call or text. In an emergency, call 911. For Ontario community and social services, call 211.