Therapy for Challenging Relationships
When the people closest to you are also the source of your greatest stress—and you're not sure how to change the pattern.
The Relationships That Drain You
Some relationships just don't work, no matter how much effort you put in. Whether it's a parent who still treats you like a child, a friend who only calls when they need something, a sibling you can't seem to connect with, or a partner whose behavior leaves you constantly off-balance—these dynamics take a toll.
You might find yourself walking on eggshells, constantly accommodating, feeling resentful but unable to set boundaries, or stuck in the same arguments that go nowhere. And somehow, you end up feeling like you're the problem.
This might sound familiar:
You dread certain interactions but feel guilty for avoiding them.
You're constantly trying to manage someone else's emotions or reactions.
You feel like you're always giving more than you're getting.
Setting boundaries feels impossible because of the guilt or backlash that follows.
You replay conversations afterward, wishing you'd said something different.
You notice similar patterns across multiple relationships in your life.
You're exhausted from trying to make things work with people who don't seem willing to meet you halfway.
What Therapy Actually Looks Like
I work with people dealing with difficult relationships using a practical, pattern-focused approach. We're not here to bash the other person or convince you to cut everyone off. We're here to understand what's happening and give you better options.
Identifying the patterns in your relationships—what keeps repeating, what role you tend to play, and how your past might be showing up in present dynamics.
Understanding your part without taking all the blame—yes, you contribute to the dynamic, but that doesn't mean the whole thing is your fault. We work on seeing clearly without unnecessary guilt.
Building actual boundaries—not just the concept, but the specific words and actions that shift the dynamic. This includes managing the guilt and discomfort that comes with saying no.
Working with people-pleasing and approval-seeking—if you tend to prioritize others' needs above your own, we need to understand where that comes from and what it's costing you.
Developing communication skills that actually work in difficult dynamics—how to be clear without being aggressive, how to stand your ground, how to disengage from unproductive arguments.
My Approach
I use an integrative, trauma-informed approach combining ACT, DBT, narrative therapy, Gestalt work, and psychodynamic therapy. What this looks like: we examine relationship patterns from your past that inform your present, work on practical skills for managing difficult interactions, and address the emotional toll these relationships take on you.
Sometimes the work is about changing the relationship. Sometimes it's about accepting what won't change and figuring out how to protect yourself. Sometimes it's about understanding why you keep choosing or staying in relationships that hurt you.
